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Posted by J Kel |
This article was submitted by Heine Nzumafo
continued from.... Three Categories of Women With Respect To Sex - PART I
It is my opinion that because sex is mostly mental, a woman can be all three. Hey, isn’t it good to be able to get a quickie when you can and enjoy it too while you are at it? And it is also great to be able to take your time, use all the resources available to make sweet love. It takes comfort, communication and understanding. It is okay for women to say what is working and what isn’t. How else is the man supposed to know, besides being quiet and swallowing every sound of pleasure would not help either, so relax and let it go. Men should be less sensitive to criticism, more observant and more patient to the needs of their woman. Listen to her body too!
The female body usually screams out the level of arousal it has reached. Check the breathing, the heart rate, body temperature, the presence of what I call the clitoral pulse and G-spot pulse. (Keeping a finger still for two or three seconds should be enough to feel it if it is present), of course there is the lubrication of the vagina, which I do not always trust. Some women get wetter than others and wetness is not always a sign of mental arousal. Physical arousal is not always a sign of mental arousal. Tough luck if you are trying to achieve orgasm in the absence of mental stimulation. The mood has to be right, the desire has to be optimal, the distraction has to be minimal, and the focus, intensity and pace have to be consistent and rhythmic over time.
If you fall in the first group, you are lucky you do not need much time for all this to happen, but at the same time you miss out on a lot of intimacy, attention and pleasure. It is possible to develop yourself, especially with the help of your partner, to be able to handle a gentle build up of pleasure that leads ultimately to more intense orgasms. You can further develop your sexuality to yield multiple orgasms. On the flip side, women who do not like to rush or have sex with little foreplay can also work on their mental stimulation such that the idea of a quickie does not seem too undesirable. Oh by the way, who said you have to cum each time you feel like? Learn to delay your orgasms, let them build up and see the impact it has on the orgasm when you finally let go…it’s all in the mind, all you need is time and a little bit of concentration.
We all know that circumstances and environment play a huge part in sex. Some situations require time and intimacy while others require speed and accuracy. Being adaptable helps, understanding each other helps. Loving each other is even most rewarding. Sex without love is incomplete. So if you want to wait, I applaud and encourage you. Good sex does not come from frequency but from quality and the quality you get is a function of your relationship with yourself and your partner. No matter the relationship you have with your mate, it is important to have a good relationship with yourself. Be comfortable with your body and responses to touch and intimacy will improve. Such comfort and understanding is the first step to rewarding experiences.
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