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Posted by J Kel |
This article was submitted by Dr. Betrand Fote
continued from ...... The Famous G-Spot and female ejaculation: myth or pleasure haven? - PART I
How do I reach the G-spot?
I know this is a question that many of you might have been asking as you read this article. Here are some tips
When she is aroused, put a finger in her vagina – your middle finger, as it is the longest – and locate your reference points on the upper surface of the vaginal wall; first the lumpy Skene’s gland just inside the opening, then the hard area which you can feel through the skin (that’s the corner of the pubic bone, then a smooth area leading back to the cervix. Come back towards the pubic bone with your finger and hook the finger in the back of it, finding a little hollow just before the smooth area begins. Your finger should be pointing up towards the navel at this point. Explore slowly allowing her to give you feedback with her words and body movement or screams! The G-spot responds to pressure rather than touch – much like massaging a pea under a mattress. Once you hit the spot, she will feel a jolt and a momentary urge to urinate. Some women may want to quit at that point but DO NOT! That is what causes many women to miss the extra sexual pressure because the association between sexual arousal and possible urinary incontinence makes them uneasy. If you continue to slowly massage this G-spot, the urgency to urinate will pass and turn into a deep, warm sensual feeling that is distinctly different from clitoral stimulation. You can sometimes intensify the feeling by pushing on the corresponding area of the lower abdomen while stimulating the spot from inside.
Intercourse and the G-spot
It is easiest to find the G-spot with your finger but it is also quite accessible to the penis- in fact, some of the most satisfying mutual lovemaking takes place when a man strokes the G-spot with his penis giving both the man and woman intense simultaneous stimulation. I have found (and research supports) that the best way to stimulate the area is to use rear-entry positions. The slight upward tilt of the penis as it enters the vagina makes it come into direct contact with the G-spot with nearly each thrust, resulting in noting short of fantastic!
Folks, the possibilities for mutual pleasure are endless. For women, relaxation and emotional safety are crucial in order to become aroused and stimulated enough so that at orgasm, they can ejaculate. It is a cliché that men are usually focused on sexual intimacy while women are focused on emotional intimacy. A common ground can be reached if men take time to learn to gently explore different areas of the vagina (and body of course) to see where the woman’s strong responses are. Taking short excursions away from these spots create a sense of anticipation, which only heightens the excitement and pleasure. If both partners find a formula that works and stick to it, lovemaking, sex and sexuality can be revolutionary. It is a wonderful experience – enjoy!
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