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Posted by J Kel |
This article was submitted by Heine Nzumafo
Not to long ago I had a chat with a friend, an interesting one as it turned out. In the end, I was pondering the connection between men and cooking. It was something she said that triggered the thinking. “If a man can heat it up in the kitchen, you know he can heat it up in the bedroom...”
Never before had I heard that. The more I thought about that, the more I found it interesting and to an extent, true. As you read, it may help to think of a few men you know. Reflect, read again if possible, and see how much you agree with the statement. Please bear in mind that this claim does not suggest the contrary to be true. So it does not mean necessarily that if a man can not heat it up in the kitchen he can not in the bedroom.
It takes a particular man to cook, or be interested in cooking. Unfortunately, there are few such men. Such men are more open-minded, less chauvinistic, less domineering and controlling. They often get pleasure from giving, and harbor positive, realistic and enlightened views about women and relationships. Precisely, they are likely not to believe in the gender defined roles in relationships. Cooking is not a woman’s job to them, so are child nurturing and other activities generally labeled as being for women.
There are others that believe strongly in their place to be anywhere but the kitchen. These men unfortunately, may not even think they should wash their plate after eating. It may not even occur to some to take the plate to the kitchen. Why should they, the service should be 100%! Women know very well that dealing with such men can be both frustrating and physically draining. Such men are more likely not to do any grocery shopping and less likely to change his babies diapers. Forget laundry or house cleaning. You will be lucky if he takes out the thrash.
There are men whose inability to cook may result from lack of exposure and practice. These men may share the same enlightened and fair attitude towards women as many men that cook. On the flip side, there are some men who cook, but only because circumstances forced them to start cooking, and who still believe in the extremities against women. Dare not associate breakfast in bed with such a man, except of course, you the woman will be doing the cooking. Such men tend to see no need to cook when a woman is available to do so. He may help you in the kitchen when he really MUST but outside the kitchen traditional old-age views apply.
continue to .... Men and Cooking - PART II
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