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Posted by J Kel |
This article was submitted by Heine Nzumafo
Between men and women, men are generally believed to be the liars, but in truth, women lie just as often and as extensively as men do. Unfortunately for men, they happen to be caught more often in the process since most of their egos have them believing that they are too good to be caught or sometimes that the women they are with trust them too much to suspect. Most men also think they cannot be successfully lied to by their women, while women expect to be lied to. Consequently, women have their guards up while men have their guards down.
I have come to realize that men and women lie about the same issues but for completely opposite reasons. This polarity stems from what is engraved in the minds of men and women throughout their upbringing. Men grow up knowing they have to run after women, and most grow up viewing women as conquests. They expect rejection and are validated by every YES. Women on the other hand expect men to seek them, for all the wrong reasons, so they grow up learning to say NO and at the same time, not developing their rejection recovery skills. They also try to appear as moral as possible…at least in the eyes of the world.
Men and women both lie about their age. While a woman is more likely to reduce her age, a man is more likely to increase his. In younger men and women it may be the reverse due to restrictions from the law. A 19-year-old male is likely to claim to be less that 18 just to date a girl less than 18. In the same token, a girl about the same age or less, in an attempt to date an older man, will claim to be older. Either way, the reason is fundamentally the same – to increase options and create opportunities.
Men have a thing for machoness to the same extent that women have for purity and morality. Women want to be seen as close to being a lady as they possibly could, while men want to be seen as macho as possible. This desire is sometimes stronger when they relate to their peers than to the person they are involved with. A man in love, wanting to feel macho to his peers is more likely to downplay his feelings for his woman. He may claim not to love her when he actually does. Women on the other hand are more likely to elevate their feelings for their man. Deep down, all women want their peers to think of their man as perfect for them, while every man wants his peers to think women just love him. What many women don’t know is that men fall in love with them just as easily and as hard, but they would neither admit, nor share as readily as they would. And even when they do express it, it seldom mirrors their true feelings.
Virginity is another interesting topic. When did you lose yours? If you are a man and you lost it at 19, you are more likely to say 14 or 15. A female who loses hers at 14 or 15 most readily says 19 or 20. Funny when you come to think of it, because studies have shown that women on average lose their virginity a lot earlier than men. Women, because they have the desire not to appear promiscuous will lie about when they lost their virginity, while men would do the same to appear macho, tough, a player, or simply wanted.
continue to .... What Men And Women Lie About - Part II
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